“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” -Maya Angelou
In life there are some things you can change but there are a whole lot of things you can’t. And determining the difference between the two is a key factor in controlling your own happiness in life. Sometimes we trick ourselves into thinking we are a victim of circumstance, that there is nothing we can do. That is very, very rarely the truth. More often than not we actually can change things, it’s just that when there is an ability to change it to Option A or Option B which are both valid, but we desperately want to change it to Option C which doesn’t exist – rather than picking A or B we tell everyone else and ourselves that we just can’t change it at all and therefore woe is us. We refuse to acknowledge and accept that Option C doesn’t exist and isn’t going to exist. We stop ourselves from moving forward at all. We are now voluntarily stuck and miserable. And until we recognize that we will continue to stay miserable. The reality is that we have to be smart enough to let go of Option C recognizing it was never really an option to begin with. We then have to choose from Option A or B and accept that one of these options will ultimately lead us to what we want, even if we can’t see that yet. We have to have a little faith for the future and start moving that way.
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” -Steve Mariboli
Nothing in life is worse than standing still. That always leads to moving backwards. Force yourself to keep moving forward. When there are circumstances that are making you unhappy stand back and evaluate what the realistic options are that exist for you. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck pining for options that cannot happen. Then make a choice and keep moving ahead. But move ahead with an attitude of hope and enthusiasm for the future.
You can’t always control your circumstances, but you can always control your choices and your attitude. Never let yourself forget that happiness is a choice – so choose it!