“Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.” – Unknown
It’s fairly normal for us to feel discouraged at times in our lives….times when people disappoint us, times we disappoint ourselves, times when things don’t go as hoped for, times where circumstances aren’t as we’d like…
While its normal to “feel discouraged” what we cannot afford to do is let ourselves “become discouraged”. Because there is a big difference in feeling and becoming – “feeling it” is temporary, whereas “becoming it” will stop us from moving forward and we will quickly become stuck where we are.
Last week was a tough week and the further the week went on, and additional hardships came, the more discouraged I found myself feeling. When I finally reached the weekend I sat down on my couch and I cried. I don’t like crying, and it takes a lot before I will, but I’d held it together as long as I could and the tears came pouring out. Sitting there in that moment, I realized that if I wasn’t careful I was going to go from “feeling discouraged” to “becoming discouraged”, and I knew I couldn’t let that happen.
In an attempt to take my mind off things my husband suggested we snuggle up in a blanket and watch a Hallmark Christmas Movie together. One Hallmark movie turned to two, then two to three, and before we knew it an entire day had passed watching Christmas movies together. It was exactly what I needed because it reminded me that the best way to avoid becoming discouraged, as well as the best way to overcome feeling discouraged, is to focus our time and attention on that which brings us joy.
Don’t let yourself feel weighed down with discouragement. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, but there is a lot you can do to change the future, so focus your time and attention on that.
~Amy Rees Anderson (author of the newly released book “What Awesome Looks Like: How To Excel in Business & Life” )