How To Get Your Swagger Back

Do you ever have days where you wake up feeling blah? Where every outfit looks terrible, and your hair just won’t go right, and you can’t find your keys, and you are late for work…we’ve all been through days like that. Sometimes we endure them and pray they will quickly be over. Other times we push through them doing the best that we can. But what we really ought to do on days like that is stop everything – look right in the mirror – and declare that you have your Swagger Back!  And command it to be so.


When my daughter was in High School I watched her roll right out of bed in the morning and walk out the door with no makeup on and with her hair in a big mess on top of her head – yet she had all the confidence in the world. I was amazed at how confident she was able to be without paying any attention to exterior things like most girls that age do.  The more I observed her over the years the more I realized that her confidence came solely based on who she was and how she was living her life – that’s what gave her her Swagger. Don’t get me wrong, she is drop dead gorgeous on the exterior, even without a stitch of makeup and without fixing her hair, but she doesn’t even realize that. She doesn’t focus on that at all. She cares about whether she is doing good in the world each day and whether she is helping her fellow man. And that is what gives her confidence. That is where her swagger comes from.

All of us can get our swagger from doing good things and helping others. We just have to recognize that those are the things that truly matter. Those are the things that we can control.

Tips for getting your Swagger back on those days it feels gone:

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. Focus only on being your best you.
  2. Don’t stress over little things. Just go with the flow and trust that God has a plan.
  3. Love yourself. Recognize that your life is a gift. You were born to do great things.
  4. Feel lucky! See the good in every situation. Opportunities lie just ahead so start moving toward them and be on the lookout.
  5. Give everything you do your very best effort. Love what you do and be excited about doing it.

Remember, Swagger is a state of mind. Swagger is a choice. And nothing, and I do mean nothing, is sexier than someone with genuine Swagger that comes from the inside and shines on the outside.

Have a fantastic day!

~Amy Rees Anderson


  • Jane says:

    I think I can now go get back on track and not let all my computer problems totally throw me off my game. Fortunately I was born with a positive attitude and naturally look for the good in every situation. Count it all joy is easy for me. Distractions, like having to replace a computer, mess me up though.

  • Sharon says:

    It has took me 55 years to completely get this. Today I was described by a young man, I work with as “Sparkling”. He wasn’t necessarily complimenting me, just stating what he experienced with me. Who knew. I don’t let making a fool of myself stop me from expressing joy. Thanks for your blog, you inspire me.

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