I have to start by saying how crazy cute this picture is!
And the message is fantastic. “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” Anyone who is married either already has, or is quickly learning, just how true that statement is.
None of us are perfect, and most of us (at least in speaking for myself) are far from it. For many years of my life I believed that in order to be worthy of being loved I had to first be perfect. I would guess I many out there have possibly felt that same way. Thinking that you are only worthy of love if you are perfect is one of the most damaging things you can tell yourself, because the reality is that you will never achieve “perfect” in this life so that would suggest you would never be worthy of love in this life….ridiculous! Of course we deserve love. All of us do. So the first things we have to do is accept that we aren’t perfect, but we are still worthy of being loved.
The next mistake we (including myself) often make is to expect perfection of others, especially those we are closest too. We get frustrated and annoyed with little mistakes they make and the natural response is to act irritated with them, sending a subtle message that they have somehow lost a little of our love. I think in marriage couples are especially prone to do this to each other because we live together 24×7 and that is enough to annoy anybody.
If we want to be happy together with those we love we have to find a way to remind ourselves that we aren’t perfect and neither are they, but we love each other, imperfections included. By giving and accepting that kind of love we both draw closer to perfection each day as we exercise patience with each other and focus our attention on improving ourselves.
So get out there this weekend and love your imperfect person perfectly!