Amy Rees Anderson

Never be afraid to fall apart

“Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.” – Rae Smith

Ya know every now and then you just have to have that momentary break down…that day when you break down and cry…when you fall apart just a little bit…it happens to the best of us, and it’s OKAY!  But you can’t let it last.  You can’t let it overtake your life.  You can’t let it break you.

My suggestion is this:  Structure your falling apart time.  When things become totally overwhelming and you feel like you can’t go on a second more, do this:  First I suggest trying to find a time when you can be home alone so you don’t burden your family.  Then give yourself say one hour to fall apart, have a good cry, bury your head in your pillow and scream, and curl up in the fetal position with your pillow and blanket and let it all out.  But only for that one hour.  Not a moment more.  Set your alarm clock to ensure you don’t go past your allotted time.  Then go ahead and have your melt down.  Get it all out.  Then when the alarm clock goes off you jump up out of your bed, run to the sink and splash your face with ice cold water.  Take a deep breath.  Look at yourself in the mirror and put on your biggest smile.  Then start fresh on the path to rebuilding yourself to the person you really want to be.  Let the past go.  Let the hurt and anger and sadness go.    Put it behind you and never look back.

Life is precious and life is short.  Sure there will be times when it is hard and when you feel like you can’t take it anymore.  But the fact is that you can.  You truly can.  So like I said, schedule your falling apart session when it becomes truly obvious that you need it (hopefully these sessions aren’t needed all that often as we all know that crying only makes you look horrible the next day…so keep it for those truly necessary times in your life :). )  Then have your momentary melt down.  Then pick up, take that deep breath, and go forward – renewed and refreshed and ready to begin again.

Believe that things will get better.  They really truly will.  You just have to keep moving forward, one foot in front of the other.  Give life a chance to show you how amazing it can really be.  And remember that the best way to create an amazing future is to believe that it is waiting for you to arrive.

Have an incredible weekend everyone.  Make the most of each moment.  And don’t forget to hug your loved ones and tell them how much they mean to you – after all, doing that might just save them from needing to schedule their own falling apart session…you never know.


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