Today was an amazing day – we had planned to take our kids out to the Lake to go boating with their friends, everyone got their swimming suits on and we packed the boat with snacks and we drove 45 minutes to the lake and got the boat on the water only to have our throttle stop working…clearly our day on the Lake was not going to happen as we had planned, which could have ruined the fun day, except for the fact that rather than griping and complaining our kids immediately said “it’s okay” and they jumped in the water and played for a minute and then said, let’s make a new plan! So we drove 45 minutes home, dropped off the boat, threw clothes on and headed out to the Larry Miller Raceway to go race Go-Karts. We had a total blast together and no one let the boat breaking down cost our day to miss a beat of joy. I LOVE my children!!!
Tomorrow is the last day we have together before we move both the kids down to their dorm and apartment Wednesday…OUCH! And even though we get to go to Orientation with our daughter the rest of this week and have our kids home for this Labor Day weekend, the fact is that come Wednesday life will never be quite the same again…..we will be Empty Nesters…..
On one hand it is breaking my heart…on the other hand I keep telling myself that this is supposed to be a good thing for me….after all, I accomplished what I was supposed to – I raised two amazing children who have incredible values and great hearts and who are going to be awesome contributors to society and the world around them wherever they are. They have incredible character, they are kind and fun and happy and loving and kind and hard workers and the list goes on and on. So then why does it feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest to have them leaving home? Because that is how it feels.
The only thing that is going to get me through this is to continually remind myself that this is a GREAT thing for them! I have to remind myself that this is what I wanted for them! This is what the last 21 years of raising them has all been for – to have them become independent adults and see them build lives of their own. I think I will have to tell that to myself over and over again over this week and next as they move out just to keep myself from falling apart emotionally. I figure that many of you out there reading this have either been through this very situation before or are facing it right now with me, so hopefully you can understand the emotions I am trying to describe.
There is no two ways about it, going through your kids leaving home is ROUGH! But it is also a blessing beyond belief and a wonderful thing for our kids. And they are about to face the most exciting and fun time of their entire lives. So I am going to try and put all my energy into being excited and happy for them the next few weeks in the hope that doing so will keep me from bawling my eyes out every day. Swollen eyes never look good anyway, so I need to try and avoid them…
To all those about to become empty nesters with us, my heart goes out to you and know that you are not alone!!! I am right there with ya baby! So let’s get through it together 🙂