Imagine for a moment that you walk into a completely dark room, and the only light that exists in the room is coming from a flashlight you hold in your hand.\u00a0\u00a0 You point the flashlight to the corner of the room and it lights up a very large, hairy spider sitting on the floor.\u00a0 How do you feel at that moment?\u00a0 Scared?\u00a0 Disgusted? Like you want to run out of the room?\u00a0 Now you take the flashlight and you point it into the opposite corner of the room and in that corner you see a huge pile of money with a sign on the cash that has your name written on the sign, letting you know it’s for you.\u00a0 Now how do you feel in that moment?\u00a0 Happy?\u00a0 Excited?\u00a0 Like you want to run over to the money and start grabbing it?\u00a0 Notice how you are still standing in the very same place, in the very same room, yet your feelings about standing in that room have completely changed?\u00a0\u00a0 Why is that?\u00a0\u00a0 After all, the room itself is exactly the same as it was when you first walked in.\u00a0 Yet instead of wanting to run out of the room, you can’t wait to stay in it.\u00a0 So what changed?\u00a0 The only thing that changed in this example was the item you focused on within the room.\u00a0 Everything stayed exactly as it was.\u00a0 The spider was always in one corner and the cash was always in the other corner, and you stood in the same place within that room.\u00a0 Ultimately, nothing in the room had changed at all.\u00a0 But because the item you chose to focus on changed, suddenly the room became a place that you very much wanted to stay in, and you were excited to be there.<\/p>\n
In Psychiatry they use something called Cognitive Therapy in treating patient’s that are struggling with depression, post traumatic stress disorder, and a myriad of other issues.\u00a0 The basic premise of cognitive therapy is that in order to change the way a patient FEELS you have to first get the patient to change the way they THINK about things, because it is their thoughts that drive their feelings.<\/p>\n
So just like the example with the flashlight, if you want to help yourself to feel differently in your life, then really examine the other possible ways you can think about your situation.\u00a0 What else about your situation can you focus on that might change the way you feel about it?\u00a0 Can you shift your flashlight in the room to shine on the pile of cash rather than flashing it on the spider?<\/p>\n
Analyze the current things in your life and really focus your attention on what is good and positive.\u00a0\u00a0For the things that are difficult in your life, maybe you can\u2019t change certain circumstances you are facing, but see if you can’t find another way to view the situation to see what possible good might result from that difficulty.\u00a0 Keep in mind that everything difficult you might go through in your life can help you become smarter, and stronger, more humble, tender hearted, forgiving, and empathetic to others.\u00a0 \u00a0That is the positive that results from overcoming difficult situations.\u00a0 Also, sometimes it is a result of the worst times in our lives that lead us to the most amazing blessings in life.\u00a0 We are taken down roads we never would have walked, but because of tragedy or heartbreak, we end up walking a path that is better and brighter than we ever imagined.<\/p>\n
By changing the way you are thinking about things, you can actually control the way you will feel.\u00a0 You can change the negative feelings to positive ones.\u00a0 You can change the desire to run out of the room to the desire to stay in the room and be excited to do so.<\/p>\n
If you want to change how you feel, change how you think.<\/p>\n
~Amy Rees Anderson<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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