\u201cI don\u2019t know how\u201d, therefore, we avoid doing it. The question is whether we genuinely don\u2019t know\nhow, or is it that we think we might know how but we\u2019re afraid we won\u2019t be good\nat it? And the reason not being good at it\nmatters is we\u2019re afraid to look silly in front of others?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What are you really afraid of is an interesting question to consider, because often times we do have knowledge or at least an idea of how to do something, but our fear of not being good enough at it and\/or our fear of looking dumb in front of others is really what ends us holding us back from attempting it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s important to identify the core of what holds you back \u2013\nwhat are you really afraid of? It\u2019s\nimportant to really be honest with yourself when you answer that question\nbecause you can\u2019t overcome what\u2019s stopping you until you identify what it\nis. Then once you identify the actual\nfear you can start finding ways to tackle it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The best way to tackle most fears is to simply change the\nway you frame things to yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example, many people fear public speaking – but what\u2019s\ntheir real fear? Most likely it\u2019s not\nthe speaking itself you\u2019re afraid of since you speak every day in normal life.\nThe real fear is that if you aren\u2019t good at public speaking the people in the audience\nwill judge you or laugh at you or think less of you \u2013 you fear you can\u2019t\ncontrol the outcome because you know you can\u2019t control what other people will\nthink. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But what if you tell yourself that the aim of the speech isn\u2019t\nto be seen as a great public speaker but rather your aim will be to be completely\nauthentic in whatever speech you give? You\nsee, you can control 100% if you\u2019re authentic during your speech and if you\nmake that the goal of the talk you now can control the outcome \u2013 thus, no more\nreason to be afraid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ask yourself what\u2019s the fear that\u2019s really stopping you \u2013 then find a way to re-frame things to yourself so your focus is on something you have control of such as: focus on trying something new rather than the worrying about being good at it, or focus on putting yourself in the running rather than worrying about being chosen.\u00a0 Overcome you fear by changing your focus!<\/p>\n\n\n\n