{"id":11927,"date":"2019-11-14T23:48:41","date_gmt":"2019-11-15T05:48:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/?p=11927"},"modified":"2019-11-15T00:48:22","modified_gmt":"2019-11-15T06:48:22","slug":"get-past-the-feeling-of-never-being-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/get-past-the-feeling-of-never-being-enough\/","title":{"rendered":"Get Past The Feeling Of Never Being Enough"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cHow do you get past that feeling of never being enough when you are trying to juggle being a mom, working a full-time job, going to school, etc. It just feels like I’ll never be enough\u201d  That was the question one of the women asked me today after hearing me talk at an event for the Stella Oaks Foundation<\/a> (named in honor of President Dallin H. Oaks’ mother), to help raise money for scholarships for single mothers. As I was giving her my answer it reminded me of a blog I’d written several years ago which reads:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back when I was a single mom, trying to juggle being the CEO of my company while raising two little kids on my own, was probably the time I peaked at being my own worst critic.  My problem was that I would compare myself to all the other stay-at-home moms who had impeccably clean houses and beautifully set tables with an actual home cooked meal for their family dinner\u2026oh, and I can\u2019t forget their perfect fresh flower centerpieces and their home-baked bread\u2026.ARGHHH\u2026I could never compete with that! So I would walk around beating myself up that I was a horrible mom who didn\u2019t bake her own bread and who served microwave mac and cheese to her kids for dinner with no centerpiece to speak of\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Forget the fact that I was working more than full-time growing a\nhealthcare technology company who had to take care of two kids and manage a\nhousehold on my own\u2026that didn\u2019t get to count for anything in my mind because\nall I could see was that I was a horrible person for not baking my own bread\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all do that to ourselves in one way or another. We focus on\nwhat we DON\u2019T do well rather than focusing on everything we DO do well and we\nblow the things we don\u2019t do well WAY out of proportion. Why do we do it?? Heck\nif I know! But we do. And we have to stop. Seriously\u2026we have to STOP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What finally squashed the voice of that inner critic judging me\nall the time about how horrible I was, was this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One night after a particularly brutal day I had come home and\nfallen apart crying alone in my room so my kids wouldn\u2019t see me upset. I don\u2019t\nknow exactly why but instead of the mean voice I typically heard in my head I\nheard a nice voice saying \u201cYou will still get to go to heaven even if you buy\nyour bread\u201d.  And I started to laugh. Then I was laughing and crying at\nthe same time because I realized that was true. God will still let me go to\nheaven even if my house is a mess once in a while, and even if I feed my kids\nmicrowave mac and cheese sometimes, and even if I can\u2019t fit into my skinny\njeans anymore, and even if I have wrinkles, and even if I don\u2019t have a fresh\nflowered centerpiece, and even if I serve dinner on a paper plate, and even if\nmy kids outfits don\u2019t match and their hair is a mess, and even if I fail in a business\nventure, and even if I don\u2019t have a particular job title or a dime of money in\nmy bank account, and God would definitely let me into heaven even if I buy my\nbread from a store!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So if God wasn\u2019t going to hold those things against me then why the heck should I spend my time fretting over them??? If God doesn\u2019t judge us for those things then why should we judge ourselves for them?!? I finally realized that I needed to stop stressing over the things that weren\u2019t going to keep me out of heaven and just focus my attention on doing the things that would get me in. Like trying to be a good person, trying to develop my talents and serve others, and trying to be loving and kind. At the end of the day all God wants is for us to try our best to keep progressing a little bit more each day. He expects improvement, not perfection. And He is just fine with store bought bread <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Focus on the things that matter. Forget the things that don’t. And know that you ARE enough! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Karen Keller, Sister Kristen Oaks, Amy Rees Anderson<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

~Amy Rees Anderson (author of the book \u201cWhat Awesome Looks Like: How To Excel in Business & Life<\/a>\u201d ) <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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