\u201cHow people treat you is their Karma, how you react is yours.\u201d \u2013\nWayne Dyer<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So often in life we find ourselves in situations where someone\ndoes something to us that is hurtful, unkind, ungrateful, unfair, unwarranted, dishonest,\nor a myriad of other mean things that hurt us or make us feel bad. And often times when that happens our initial\nthought from the little devil on our shoulder is to lash back and protect\nourselves by fighting fire with fire. An eye for an eye, right?! Wrong!! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fighting fire with fire is what I would call a lose\/lose\nsituation. I cannot think of a single time in my life when lashing back at\nsomeone made me feel better. On the contrary, the times I was dumb enough\nto lash back I felt small, and ashamed, and sick inside after. I truly\ncan\u2019t think of a single instance where I felt good about myself after lashing\nback.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now\ncontrast that to the times where someone hurt me and I was wise enough to take\nthe high road and not lash back \u2013 in those times I was able to feel at peace\nwith myself even though my feelings were still sad or hurt. And despite the\nhurt I was able to hold my head high and feel good about how I reacted and that\ngave me peace even in the midst of the very worst of life\u2019s storms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
None of\nus can control how other people treat us, we can only control how we react to\nit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Reacting\nnice when someone else treats you poorly is TOUGH!!! REALLY TOUGH!!! It honestly\ntakes tremendous self-control and self-discipline to control your thinking and\nto control your temper when someone treats you poorly. But the thing I\u2019ve found\nthat helps me most to stay in control when others are being horrible is to remember\nthat everyone will one day be held accountable for the way they have treated\nothers. In addition, Karma is a very real thing and what people put out will\none day come back to them – it may come back fast or it may come back slow, but\nit will always come back in the end\u2026that is guaranteed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We also have to remember that we are also one of those people who will be held accountable for how we treat others. That\u2019s why I keep a a sticker on my wall that says \u201cWhen we one day stand before God, we will be standing alone\u201d as a reminder that when I stand before God someday to be held accountable for my behavior I won\u2019t be able to point to someone else and say \u201cwell they did this to me first\u201d or \u201cwell they deserved it because of how they treated me\u201d because I will be standing before Him alone, with no one I can point the finger at or blame \u2013 it will just be me. SO regardless of what anyone else did or said, or how bad it hurt us, none of us can justify bad behavior by blaming anyone else.\u00a0 We had a choice to lash back or to take the high road – We always have that choice.\u00a0 And while we didn\u2019t choose to be hurt we can certainly cause it to hurt more if we allow ourselves to lose our own integrity in the process.\u00a0 No one is worth giving our integrity up for. No one. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Make it your goal to be kind no matter what, to\u00a0take the high road, to be the bigger person. And if that little devil on your shoulder starts acting up, grab the nearest fire extinguisher and have your little angel on the other shoulder take care of business :)!<\/p>\n\n\n\n