{"id":3764,"date":"2013-08-28T21:58:55","date_gmt":"2013-08-29T03:58:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/?p=3764"},"modified":"2013-08-28T21:59:16","modified_gmt":"2013-08-29T03:59:16","slug":"why-its-so-hard-to-trust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/why-its-so-hard-to-trust\/","title":{"rendered":"Why It\u2019s So Hard To Trust"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cPeople ask me why it\u2019s so hard to trust people, and I ask them why it is so hard to keep a promise.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nothing is as frustrating as putting your trust in people who then let you down. Trusting people in the first place is always scary.\u00a0 But then after you take that leap and put your faith in them, and then they let you down\u2026.well that is the worst.<\/p>\n

I have been dealing with that a lot on the building of this new house.\u00a0 It has turned into a series of trusting people to do a good job, paying a ton of money for them to do it right, and being let down time and time again as people finger point, place blame, and side step all accountability as the project falls further and further behind.\u00a0 It has been a very disheartening experience so far.<\/p>\n

Perhaps a little background will help you understand my frustration:\u00a0 I have literally spent years and years designing every inch of my future dream house.\u00a0 And I literally mean years.\u00a0 I spent years planning the exact layout that would facilitate hosting my large family and my husband\u2019s large family (there are 10 kids in my family and I think around 70 of us with my mom and dad, my siblings and their spouses and our children.\u00a0 My husband comes from a family of 11 kids and I don\u2019t even know the total number with their spouses and kids. )\u00a0 I wanted a home where we could host all of them for holidays and weddings and reunions.\u00a0 We also wanted a house that would work well to have events for the many boards I serve on and the parties we host allowing friends and neighbors to hold weddings and events there as well.\u00a0 I thought through each little detail of how to lay every room out so it would be the best experience possible for my guests.\u00a0 I spent years collecting pictures of what each room should look like.\u00a0 \u00a0I even gathered pictures of exactly the cabinets, and baseboards and the moldings and doors and ceiling designs for every single room. I even went so far as to put all of the images into an organized PowerPoint presentation that the building team could use to see exactly what the finished product of this home should look like.\u00a0 You would think that with all that prep work I did and all that planning of all those details that I so carefully thought through that I could trust that it would get done that way, but up to now that has not been the case at all.\u00a0 It seems every day we find yet another thing that isn\u2019t at all like the design I had put together and we end back at the drawing board having to redesign things to what was built rather than building to what was once my design.<\/p>\n

So you can see why the topic of trust is weighing heavily on my mind today.\u00a0 How do you know who to trust?\u00a0 Especially when you have been let down by people you did trust.\u00a0 And how do you know the next person you hire to do it won\u2019t let you down just as much as the last person?\u00a0 The more people let you down the harder it becomes to trust the next person that says \u201ctrust me\u201d.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we even get caught in the trap of allowing someone we know we can\u2019t trust to be around us because we start to tell ourselves that \u201cthe next person will be just as bad so why not stick with the devil you know rather than risking the devil you don\u2019t know.\u201c I have allowed myself to get caught in that trap these last few months, but no more.\u00a0 It\u2019s time for me to surround myself with people I trust.\u00a0 So how do I make that happen?<\/p>\n

I have decided that the only way to know if you can trust a new person is to actually put your trust in them one time.\u00a0 You have to give them that one chance to prove that they are trustworthy. Is it scary to do that?\u00a0 Heck yes!\u00a0 Especially when you have been burned before!\u00a0 But taking that leap of faith and allowing them that one chance to prove themselves is the only way you will ever know for sure.\u00a0 Is there a chance you will get let down again?…Of course there is\u2026.that\u2019s why it\u2019s so freaking scary\u2026but what you can\u2019t do is give up on finding the right people out there\u2026.the trustworthy people who do what they say and say what they do\u2026.they are out there\u2026 I know they are out there because in my years as a CEO of a large company I was able to hire and surround myself with the most amazing people ever.\u00a0 Over the years I was able to assemble a team that was 100% trustworthy, and having that team I could count on is what allowed us to achieve amazing success in our business.\u00a0 So never forget that finding the right people in life is worth every the effort!<\/p>\n

~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cPeople ask me why it\u2019s so hard to trust people, and I ask them why it is so hard to keep a promise.\u201d Nothing is as frustrating as putting your trust in people who then let you down. Trusting people in the first place is always scary.\u00a0 But then after you take that leap and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3686,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[698,367,168,46,36,2026,2027,240,163,1947,2023,2014,1676,2015,83,178,51,93,2012,189,7,364,2011,2016,2017,34,2025,2010,2019,1180,2018,161,2013,203,2021,2022,2024,283,341,416,149,613,84,1927,2020],"class_list":["post-3764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-accountability","tag-achieve","tag-adversity","tag-attitude","tag-ceo","tag-chance","tag-chances","tag-children","tag-courage","tag-design","tag-devil-you-know","tag-disheartening","tag-dream-home","tag-events","tag-experience","tag-faith","tag-family","tag-fear","tag-finger-point","tag-friends","tag-future","tag-goal","tag-good-job","tag-host","tag-hosting","tag-integrity","tag-leap-of-faith","tag-let-down","tag-neighbors","tag-organized","tag-parties","tag-party","tag-place-blame","tag-plan","tag-planning","tag-prepared","tag-prove","tag-right","tag-siblings","tag-spouse","tag-success","tag-team","tag-trust","tag-trustworthy","tag-weddings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3764","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3764"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3764\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3765,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3764\/revisions\/3765"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3686"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3764"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3764"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3764"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}