Words are a powerful thing. Words can build and lift, comfort and calm, teach and inspire.\u00a0 To the opposite, words can destroy and demolish, incite and enrage, berate and criticize, embarrass and demean.\u00a0 It has been said that in an average day a person will speak somewhere between 10 and 20,000 words. Which means we have that tons of chances every day\u00a0to say something positive or to say something negative, the choice is totally up to us.<\/p>\n
There is an old saying that \u201cSticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.\u201d Whoever came up with that saying had it completely wrong\u2026what they saying needed to say is\u00a0\u201cSticks and stones may break my bones, but unkind words will always<\/span> hurt me\u2026and a broken bone can heal with time, but the damage done by unkind words might never heal.\u201d\u00a0 Anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of verbal abuse or verbal assaults knows all too well how true this is\u2026<\/p>\n What is important to keep in mind is that people who speak negatively of others are people who first have felt negatively about themselves, they are those who are constantly thinking critical thoughts about themselves.\u00a0 After a period of time of only seeing the negative in themselves, that person begins to only see the negative in others too, and often times they start to voice that.\u00a0 They become incapable of seeing the positive, and instead they only complain and condemn.\u00a0 They wallow in misery themselves and they become determined to make everyone around them feel miserable too.\u00a0 Often times they may\u00a0try to mask their unkind words with sarcasm and humor,\u00a0relishing in the laughter they get at the expense of someone else.\u00a0 What they don\u2019t realize is that the laughter they are getting is from people who laugh out of fear, not out of admiration, because the last thing those people laughing want is to become next on their list to be torn down.\u00a0 What it comes down to is this,\u00a0people who speak negatively are not loved; they are feared.<\/p>\n When we are tempted to say something unkind we have to remember this:\u00a0 Negative words, once spoken, can’t be pulled back.\u00a0 We can apologize and try to make amends, but even that won\u2019t make the memory of our words disappear.\u00a0 Even if the person we offended forgives us,\u00a0they are likely to remember our words for many years to come and the damage done to their heart may never fully heal.\u00a0\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n Boys flying kites haul in their white-winged birds; <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n You can call back your kites, but you can\u2019t call back your words. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n \u201cCareful with fire\u201d is good advice, we know; <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n \u201cCareful with words\u201d is ten times doubly so. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n Thoughts unexpressed will often fall back dead. But God Himself can\u2019t kill them, once they are said!<\/span> <\/i><\/p>\n -Will Carleton<\/i><\/p>\n We have to remember that the\u00a0words we say reflect the person that we are,\u00a0whether they are good or bad, they are reflecting what we think and feel on the inside to everyone observing on the outside.\u00a0\u00a0Our words\u00a0reflect\u00a0our character.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0That goes for both the words we speak as well as the words we write.\u00a0 In today\u2019s world we see so much of people writing horrible things on Twitter or Facebook or a myriad of other social media outlets.\u00a0 Bullying is no longer just for the playground, cyber-bullying has run rampant on the web.\u00a0 And people seem to take more liberty with being unkind in writing then they would dare attempt to verbalize in person.\u00a0Putting word in written form hurts no less than words spoken, and sometimes it can hurt even more.\u00a0 When I have come across that type of tearing down I can\u2019t help but think to myself: how miserable must this person who wrote this must be to have taken time out of their day to post something so destructive and degrading about someone else\u2026.making that effort takes being a truly unhappy person who wants nothing more than to spread their misery\u2026it\u2019s really very sad.<\/p>\n On the opposite end of the spectrum we have those who use their words in positive ways.\u00a0 They are optimistic and happy and they look for the good, both in themselves, as well as in others.\u00a0 They are encouraging and kind and they use the power of their\u00a0words to build and encourage.\u00a0 People are drawn to them because they know they will lift them up, give them hope, and inspire them to be better. \u00a0\u00a0These people are loved, and it is easy to see why. I absolutely love people who use the power of their words to do good.\u00a0 I love learning from them and I love being around them.\u00a0 They make the world a happier place and they\u00a0inspire me to\u00a0use the power of my own words for good.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s to making the world a better place by the power of our words \u2013 both spoken and written!\u00a0 Have a great Monday everyone!\u00a0 It’s going to be an amazing week ahead…I just feel it!<\/p>\n ~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Words are a powerful thing. Words can build and lift, comfort and calm, teach and inspire.\u00a0 To the opposite, words can destroy and demolish, incite and enrage, berate and criticize, embarrass and demean.\u00a0 It has been said that in an average day a person will speak somewhere between 10 and 20,000 words. 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