\u201cPride is to relationships as cyanide is to health.\u201d\u00a0 I came across an amazing article today about pride and there was a section that was so powerful I had to share it.<\/p>\n
\u201cA pride contest has no winner because\u00a0nobody likes the winner<\/em>. Humans don\u2019t respond well to being put down, and pride gives others that feeling with its \u201cbetter than you\u201d implications. Humility has the opposite effect. If you (amazing as you are) put others above yourself, they\u2019ll feel good whenever they\u2019re around you. They\u2019ll like you!<\/span><\/p>\n Many relationship issues are caused by pride. If you\u00a0can\u2019t admit you\u2019re wrong, it\u2019s your pride telling you to \u201cwin\u201d the argument. If you take an\u00a0all or nothing stance it\u2019s because giving any credit to others hurts your pride. If you have a lot of pride, you might even\u00a0refuse to communicate, which is the worst relationship blunder a person can make.<\/span><\/p>\n Pride alters communication and connection. When you put yourself on a pedestal, it makes it difficult for anyone to get close to you. Your ability to be vulnerable, which is the primary way we show trust to each other, will be compromised. Pride and vulnerability can\u2019t coexist. If I show you my weakness, my pride takes a back seat because I\u2019ve just shown imperfection, and pride is an illusion of perfection that we tell ourselves and others.\u201d<\/span> \u2013 Stephen Guise<\/p>\n Why would anyone want to embrace pride?\u00a0 I just can\u2019t understand that.\u00a0 What value do they actually get from it?\u00a0\u00a0 I have never observed situation where pride made any situation better.\u00a0 Rather it destroys whatever it touches.\u00a0 Pride ruins marriages, it ruins families, it ruins friendships, and it ruins companies.\u00a0 Pride doesn\u2019t build, it only destroys.<\/p>\n \u201cPride and ego can blind people and often makes them guilty of unwise choices and rash decisions that they may later come to regret. Pride can cloud judgment and cause emotional stupidity. The only thing worse than wounded pride is taking action based on the state of mind that it creates.\u201d\u00a0 – Marshall W<\/span><\/p>\n I believe the best way to avoid pride is to be grateful, because being grateful keeps you humble and when you are humble it is impossible to feel pride.\u00a0 When you are grateful for a spouse it is impossible to act prideful toward them.\u00a0 When you are grateful for a job it is impossible to be prideful at work.\u00a0 Gratitude is the key to chasing away pride.<\/p>\n \u201cA proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see something that’s above you.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Today\u2019s challenge is to LOOK UP!\u00a0 And be grateful for all the wonderful things in your life.\u00a0 That\u2019s the best way to keep them.<\/p>\n -Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cPride is to relationships as cyanide is to health.\u201d\u00a0 I came across an amazing article today about pride and there was a section that was so powerful I had to share it. \u201cA pride contest has no winner because\u00a0nobody likes the winner. 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