Relationships are a tricky thing.\u00a0 Men and women are so drastically different in so many ways that it is a serious miracle that we actually end up together in many ways.\u00a0 We communicate differently, we show love differently, we have different expectations, we have different emotional responses\u2026we are just plain different.<\/p>\n
And is if our differences weren\u2019t intimidating enough, \u00a0we are then expected to pick just one person and commit to being with them forever.\u00a0 Talk about serious pressure!\u00a0 It is about the riskiest venture a person can ever step into!\u00a0 Finding one person who will be your perfect match\u2026your soul mate\u2026your best friend\u2026.your lover\u2026\u00a0 That one decision is the most important decision you will make in your life.\u00a0 So yeah, no pressure!<\/p>\n
If I had to give my children advice on making the decision on who to marry I would tell them this:\u00a0 Find a person with a truly good heart, who has integrity, and who you are physically attracted to and marry them!\u00a0 The physical attraction part speaks for itself, so I am going to focus on explaining the good heart and integrity part.<\/p>\n
The good heart requirement goes back to what I started talking about in the opening paragraph \u2013 men and women are totally and completely different \u2013 which means there will be a million disagreements on how things should get done in your marriage (squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or the bottom, and drive this direction to get there or that one, and watch Beverly Hills Housewives on TV or Build it Bigger\u2026).\u00a0 And for many of those disagreements it won\u2019t be a clear cut of who is right and who is wrong (although I would argue that in my marriage I am right far more of the time than he is and he would argue the opposite \ud83d\ude42 ), because often times its just a difference of opinion rather than a clear cut right or wrong.\u00a0 Also because of our differences we will communicate poorly, we will irritate each other, we will even infuriate each other at times\u2026.and when those things happen \u2013 AND THEY WILL HAPPEN! \u2013 The one thing that you can hold on to \u2013 the one thing that will make that person worth fighting for \u2013 the one thing that will make it worth forgiving and forgetting is this \u2013 THEY HAVE A GOOD HEART and THEY HAVE INTEGRITY!<\/p>\n
That quality and that quality alone is worth hanging onto in a spouse.\u00a0 Because a person with a truly good heart is going to be willing to improve and be willing to make things right.\u00a0 A person with that core character of integrity is always going to come from an honest place with you.\u00a0 Integrity and a good heart are two qualities that can overshadow any frustration or any shortcomings until such a time that those shortcomings improve.\u00a0 A person with integrity and a good heart is worth fighting for to keep in your life.\u00a0 A person with a good heart and integrity is a person to cherish and love forever.<\/p>\n
For those of you out there in the dating world who have found a person who fits the criteria I listed my advice is to hurry up and marry that person!\u00a0 Finding someone you are attracted to physically who also has a good heart and integrity is a very rare combination so snatch it up when you have the chance!\u00a0 Then hang on tight and never let them go.<\/p>\n
And being a person with a good heart and integrity is not only\u00a0the kind of spouse we should look to find, it is also\u00a0the kind of spouse we should be ourselves.\u00a0 And when you find that person and you get married and that person frustrates you or upsets you (which we have already acknowledged will surely happen) just say to yourself \u201che is a good man\u201d or \u201cshe is a good woman\u201d \u2013 remind yourself that the momentary frustrations are not worth losing this person over.\u00a0 Then hope they will say the same thing back about you when you frustrate them!\u00a0 Be that person worth not losing.\u00a0 None of us can be perfect people, but we can all choose to be a person of\u00a0 integrity and a good heart.<\/p>\n
Happy Marriage to All and to all a good night tonight \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n
~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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