{"id":4896,"date":"2014-08-19T19:54:24","date_gmt":"2014-08-20T01:54:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/?p=4896"},"modified":"2014-08-19T19:54:36","modified_gmt":"2014-08-20T01:54:36","slug":"feeling-like-youre-failing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/feeling-like-youre-failing\/","title":{"rendered":"Feeling like you\u2019re failing?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today I received an email from a dear friend who expressed her struggles to keep up with everything in her life while also attempting to be a good mother, which she usually feels she is failing at miserably.\u00a0 As I read her email I couldn\u2019t help but think of how so many of us struggle with the feeling that as hard as we are trying we still fail that there are areas of our life we feel as though we are failing miserably\u2026whether it is as a parent, or in our jobs, or as a friend, or in our civic duties\u2026I think most of us carry around a feeling that we are somehow falling short in one or more areas of our lives\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

So how can we stop feeling that we are failing miserably that most of us struggle with?\u00a0 I think there are a few things that can help us on that front:<\/p>\n

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  1. Stop comparing yourself to someone else.\u00a0 I think where we go wrong on this one is that we compare ourselves to multiple people \u2013 each of whom excel in one area of life \u2013 so we compare our motherhood skills to the person we deem as the perfect mother, and then we compare our work skills to someone we deem perfect at work, and then we compare our friendship skills to someone who we deem to be the perfect friend.\u00a0 We don\u2019t just compare ourselves to one single person \u2013 we compare ourselves to the best person in each area of life and that is an impossible comparison to live up to. We are not ten people who are each perfect in a different area \u2013 we are one person who is trying to do everything at once.\u00a0 We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and start comparing ourselves to beating our best self each day.\u00a0 Start with where you are today and try to do a little better tomorrow \u2013 then let that be enough.<\/li>\n
  2. Stop judging yourself by every little imperfection \u2013 rather judge yourself by the entire person you are over the course of time.\u00a0 When you have one bad day don\u2019t let that one bad day define who you are \u2013 it was one day amongst a thousand days in which you did great \u2013 judge yourself by the big picture rather than being micro-focused on every little thing.<\/li>\n
  3. Look at your failures as a chance to change and improve. Consider the mistakes you have made a chance to repent and make things even better than they were before.\u00a0 Don\u2019t look at these as the end, rather look at them as a chance for a new beginning.<\/li>\n
  4. Get more sleep. It\u2019s easier to believe the voices of insecurity in your head when you are tired and rundown. \u00a0Sleep deprivation can cause you to believe all kinds of garbage that isn\u2019t true.\u00a0 Go to bed.\u00a0 Put in ear plugs.\u00a0 Get a good night\u2019s rest and wake up tomorrow refreshed.<\/li>\n
  5. Acknowledge that it IS hard to do it all.\u00a0 Heck it\u2019s downright impossible to do it all, so don\u2019t expect that you can.\u00a0 Know that you are not alone in your feelings of inadequacy.\u00a0 Be assured that even those people out there who seem to have it all and who seem to do it all perfect are actually struggling just as much as you \u2013 whether it\u2019s a house that is a mess, or kids that won\u2019t stop fighting, or a job they dislike, or money problems, or family problems, or whatever it is \u2013 the point is that everyone is struggling with something and everyone battles feeling of failing. All they and you can do is to do your best. That\u2019s it. That is all you can do.\u00a0 Just do the very best you can do each day and allow yourself to feel good about that, because THAT IS ENOUGH!\u00a0 YOU ARE ENOUGH!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Have an awesome day everyone and remember that YOU ARE ENOUGH!<\/p>\n

    ~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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