Today during a discussion I had a sudden epiphany of understanding that shed absolute clarity to one of life\u2019s greatest mysteries \u2013 understanding the difference between men and women and their insecurities! \u00a0I am talking a serious flash of genius that was so obvious I couldn\u2019t believe I hadn\u2019t recognized it a long time ago.\u00a0 Now before anyone reads this and says \u201cI\u2019m not like that!\u201d, Look, I get it, this won\u2019t apply to 100% of the population\u2026and yes, it\u2019s a stereo type\u2026but stereo types become stereo types because they are typically true in the majority of cases.\u00a0 So just enjoy this for what it is\u2026a really insightful discovery into understanding men and women that could help you in your relationships with the opposite sex. So here it is:<\/p>\n
Women are typically insecure about their exterior, but fairly secure with their interior.<\/p>\n
Men are typically secure about their exterior, but fairly insecure with their interior.<\/p>\n
Let me expound:<\/p>\n
Women worry about how they look on the exterior a good deal of their lives.\u00a0 When a woman walks in front of a mirror she instantly thinks \u201cI look terrible!\u201d.\u00a0\u00a0 They worry about their weight and their wrinkles and their gray hair and their thighs \u2026and the list goes on and on.\u00a0 Women feel better about themselves when they get validation from others regarding their exterior.\u00a0 But when it comes to their interiors women are typically confident with their ability to handle things and they don\u2019t rely so much on external validation from others.\u00a0 A great example is motherhood where a mother performs duties all day long for her children and she is okay with the fact she receives little to no validation for it.<\/p>\n
Men, on the other hand, typically don\u2019t sit and worry about wrinkles and balding hair and their weight. Men walk in front of a mirror and think \u201cI look GOOD\u201d no matter how they actually look.\u00a0 No, men don\u2019t typically need validation from others about how they look in order to feel confident.\u00a0 However, when it comes to their interiors and how they are performing at what they do, men typically need far more validation from others.\u00a0 That is why a man\u2019s confidence is often tied to how he feels other perceive his importance in the workplace. Men need reassurance regarding their internal abilities.<\/p>\n
So what is the lesson to be learned from this amazing epiphany of clarity I had today?\u00a0 Here are a few applications it could help with:<\/p>\n
Married men, you should recognize your wives need to be validated for her external features on a daily basis. Notice when she gets her hair cut or changes her makeup or has a new pair of earrings on.\u00a0 Those things matter a great deal to her and one nice word from you can brighten her entire day.<\/p>\n
Married women, you should recognize your husbands need to be validated for his internal abilities on a daily basis.\u00a0 Notice when he carries the groceries in or when he helps with the dishes or when he puts in a hard day at work. Those things matter a great deal to him and one nice word from you can brighten his entire day.<\/p>\n
I think the same understanding can help men and women in the workplace.\u00a0 Mind you the men need to be very careful when they complement a woman\u2019s physical appearance in the workplace so it doesn\u2019t cross a line to be inappropriate, but there are plenty of appropriate compliments that can be made to a woman regarding a nice pair of shoes, or a sharp suit she is wearing, etc.\u00a0 And women in the workplace can remember that a compliment on a man\u2019s performance at work will go a long way toward building his confidence too.<\/p>\n
Anyway that is my little epiphany of genius I was hit with today.\u00a0 And maybe all of you reading this had already recognized this in this simple way before, but for me it felt like a flash of genius!! So I am going with that \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Have a great day!<\/p>\n
~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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