{"id":5613,"date":"2015-05-17T16:15:29","date_gmt":"2015-05-17T22:15:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/?p=5613"},"modified":"2015-05-17T16:19:27","modified_gmt":"2015-05-17T22:19:27","slug":"haters-dont-really-hate-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/haters-dont-really-hate-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Haters Don\u2019t Really Hate You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #993366;\"><strong>\u201cHaters don\u2019t really hate you. In fact, they hate themselves because you\u2019re a reflection of what they wish to be.\u201d &#8211; unknown<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>How much do you love that quote?! Right!! Love it! It\u2019s awesome.<\/p>\n<p>I would guess everyone has had to deal with haters at one point or another in their life, whether it\u2019s a school bully growing up, or a mean-spirited adult. When someone is a hater they do everything in their power to make others feel small and to tear other people down. They often come off as incredibly confident and pleased with themselves, but the reality is that they are neither of those things.\u00a0 Haters are insecure and unhappy with themselves, and they manifest it by spreading hate\u2026after all, misery loves company\u2026<\/p>\n<p>I wish every kid out there could have a copy of the quote above so they could understand that haters don\u2019t actually hate the person they hate on at all. They hate themselves because they wish they could be everything that you are!<\/p>\n<p>If anyone reading this is thinking to themselves \u201cthe girl hating on me is so pretty\u201d or \u201cthe guy bullying me is so athletic\u201d or \u201cthe coworker hating on me is so smart\u201d so you are wondering how they could possibly be insecure or want to be you when are so great themselves?\u00a0\u00a0 Guess what, they are absolutely insecure because haters haven\u2019t yet learned to value themselves \u2013 if they did value themselves then they wouldn\u2019t be picking on you! I guarantee that.<\/p>\n<p>Happy and secure people don\u2019t tear other people down. In fact, happy and secure people build other people up and that is why they continue to be so happy \u2013 they are comfortable in their own skin and happy with themselves so they don\u2019t sit and compare themselves to others because they recognize that we are all amazing in our own way, which allows them to be happy for others rather than envying them.<\/p>\n<p>So the next time you are dealing with a hater, try something novel \u2013 try giving them a genuine compliment. Don\u2019t throw up on that idea, just try it. Honestly find something you admire about that person and find way to tell them. Give them a compliment. It may feel awkward and uncomfortable at first, but that\u2019s okay. No matter how awkward it feels to do you will walk away from it feeling better about yourself, whether they respond favorably or not. You know why? Because you giving them a sincere compliment shows that you are a secure and happy person yourself! So smile and feel good and if they hate on you tomorrow do it again\u2026the more you do it the happier you will be, and maybe one day they will actually take the compliment to heart and start to see that they do have value\u2026once they get that they will stop being a hater and start being nice.<\/p>\n<p>Happy day everyone!<\/p>\n<p>~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cHaters don\u2019t really hate you. In fact, they hate themselves because you\u2019re a reflection of what they wish to be.\u201d &#8211; unknown How much do you love that quote?! Right!! Love it! It\u2019s awesome. 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