Last week my husband and I hosted his Mother\u2019s family reunion for her siblings and their spouses (so Rollin and I\u2019s Aunts and Uncles from his Mother\u2019s side) at our home. From her 10 siblings, 6 were able to attend with their spouses. Each of these couples have been married for many, many years. One night during the reunion Rollin and I asked each of these couples to share some words of advice with our son Dalton\u00a0on how to have a happy marriag, as\u00a0our son Dalton who has been dating with the intention of getting married and we thought their advice might benefit him in the future. After all, who could give better advice on a happy marriage then these couples who have withstood the test of time with their own marriages and who still deeply love their spouses?<\/p>\n
As they went around the room sharing some tips with Dalton I tried to write down their pearls of wisdom so I could share them with all of you too. After all, I figure we could all benefit, married or not, from their words. I know I did.<\/p>\n
As you read these keep in mind that some are from the husbands and some are from the wives\u2026I didn\u2019t note which they were from as I wrote them down but I chuckled as I typed up my notes tonight because on several of them it is painfully obvious they came from the husbands \ud83d\ude09\u00a0\u00a0 \u2026like the first several on the list for example \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen you feel like saying something, you probably shouldn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDarned if you do, and darned if you don\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen you have an argument and you know you are right\u2026like 100% right\u2026.apologize and say you\u2019re sorry\u2026you may not be sorry\u2026but you are going to be, if you don\u2019t apologize.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThere is an old saying that states \u2018Love means never having to say you are sorry\u2019, that\u2019s not true. Love means you BETTER say you are sorry!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cKeep your mouth shut and let things go. Some things aren\u2019t worth being right over.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen your wife is upset\u2026clearly upset\u2026just love her and kid her a little. Get her to laugh and just love her!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAlways remember that it is your job to make your spouse look good to others. Never publicly get a laugh at your spouse\u2019s expense, rather, learn the art of praising them in public.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNever retire at night with bad feelings toward each other.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAlways remember, actions speak louder than words.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIf you pray together, you cannot stay mad about it. So pray together each night.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cExpress your opinion but don\u2019t be mean about it. Be okay to have a differing opinions sometimes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou can choose who does something, or how it\u2019s done\u2026but you can\u2019t choose both.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNever stop flirting with your spouse and never stop having fun together. It comes naturally when you date but not so much after your married, so make the effort to always keep flirting with your spouse.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWrite a note to your spouse listing two things \u2013 1. I love you because\u2026. and 2. I love you most when\u2026.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNothing in life is worth losing the Spirit of the Lord over.\u201d<\/p>\n
I think the last one is my favorite! All of their tips are great advice to consider as we try to improve our own relationships and marriages. I think the clear theme to their words was that we need to be slow to anger, quick to apologize, and never stop flirting, laughing, having fun, loving and praying with our spouse.<\/p>\n
Thanks to Rollin\u2019s Parents and our Aunts and Uncles for their great advice! Hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.<\/p>\n
~Amy<\/p>\n
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