{"id":6600,"date":"2016-04-25T19:39:01","date_gmt":"2016-04-26T01:39:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/?p=6600"},"modified":"2016-05-25T23:10:33","modified_gmt":"2016-05-26T05:10:33","slug":"big-decisions-and-avoiding-the-what-if-bus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/big-decisions-and-avoiding-the-what-if-bus\/","title":{"rendered":"Big Decisions and Avoiding the \u201cWhat If\u201d Bus"},"content":{"rendered":"

We are all familiar with the quote \u201cDecisions determine destiny\u201d<\/span> and I genuinely believe that is the case. That is why it can be especially hard to make big decisions that come up in our lives.<\/p>\n

Anytime I have a big decision to make in life I think to myself \u201cIt would be so much easier if God would just TELL ME what he wants me to do\u201d because then I could just go do it! But then I remember that God doesn\u2019t make our decisions and choices for us \u2013 he sent us here to learn to make decisions for ourselves\u2026.which kinda sucks sometimes\u2026because gosh darn it, it would be SO MUCH EASIER if he just did it for us!!! #realtalk<\/p>\n

I am guessing some of you reading this can totally relate to those feelings of dread you get when it comes to making big life decisions. It\u2019s like we get stuck on the \u201cWhat If\u201d bus where we sit and think through all the \u201cWhat if\u201d scenarios that might occur if we choose option A versus option B and then what if there is an option C we haven\u2019t even considered yet??? Then what?!?! And before you know it the \u201cWhat If\u201d bus has you headed down a black tunnel with no light at the other end. It truly is a horrible feeling.<\/p>\n

In a previous post called 6 steps to making good decisions <\/a>I laid out the process I try to follow when I need to make a big decision and those steps definitely help me, but I can\u2019t pretend it\u2019s ever really easy to make those decisions because it\u2019s not. But what I can say for sure is that once you\u2019ve laid out the pros and cons of your options you absolutely have to avoid letting yourself become a passenger on that \u201cWhat If\u201d bus. You have to be willing to lay out the options and then after allowing yourself a reasonable amount of time for considering things you have to call it and cut off any more thought or discussion of \u201cWhat if\u201d. DO NOT get on that bus! Make the choice and move forward with confidence that because you tried your best to do the right thing that things will turn out as they should in the end.<\/p>\n

\u201cDecisions. We can think about things, turn them over in our minds a million times, play out possible scenarios, but really when it comes down to it, you have to go with your heart and move forward. Maybe things will go well. Maybe they\u2019ll turn out poorly. Every decision brings with it some good, some bad, some lessons, and some luck. The only thing that\u2019s for sure is that indecision steals many years from many people who wind up wishing they\u2019d just had the courage to leap.\u201d<\/span> -Doe Zantamata<\/p>\n

May we all have the courage to leap!<\/p>\n

~Amy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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