\u201cHow or who, baby\u2026how or who\u2026\u201d, that is my husband Rollin\u2019s very favorite saying.\u00a0 How do I know it\u2019s his favorite? Because I\u2019ve heard him say it multiple times every day for the last ten and a half years of marriage.\u00a0 Let me explain:<\/p>\n
Every time that I ask my husband Rollin to do something and then start giving him detailed directions on exactly how he should go about doing it\u2026 (cause\u2026he\u2019s a man\u2026and not to stereotype every man out there, but let\u2019s just #realtalk for a second and all acknowledge that the majority of men typically just don\u2019t care about giving that extreme level of attention to every tiny detail when doing a task that a woman often cares to give…and while the men might describe it as being \u201ca psychotic and unnecessary amount of attention to detail\u201d we women simply think of if as \u201cshowing just how much we care\u201d\u2026 \ud83d\ude42 )\u2026my husband will immediately respond with, \u201cHow or who, baby\u2026how or who\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
The first time I heard that phrase come out of his mouth (which honestly was probably like ten minutes into our married life\u2026) I had absolutely no idea what he meant. Seeing my look of bewilderment he explained, \u201cYou can either decide how a task will get done, or, you can decide who is going to do it, but you don\u2019t get to decide both.\u201d He explained that if I wanted something to get done in exactly a certain way then I could do it myself, but if I wanted to decide he was going to do it then I would have to let him do it his own way.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell that\u2019s ridiculous\u201d I responded, \u201cWhy wouldn’t you do it the way I am describing when its exactly the very best way to get it done right?! I mean, why in the world you would not want to do it the very best way?!\u201d<\/p>\n
To that he simply laughed and shook his head, and again repeated, \u00a0\u201cHow or who baby\u2026.how…or…who\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
Ten and a half years of marriage later, and not a day goes by without my husband responding, \u201cHow or who baby\u2026.how or who\u2026\u201d \u2026But don\u2019t you worry\u2026.I’m not giving up….because one of these days I\u2019ll finally get him to admit that all those detailed instructions I continuously give him really are the very best way to do those tasks exactly right! \ud83d\ude42 …\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cCause all it takes to change a man is perseverance,\u201d said no one with a straight face, ever.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span> (tee hee)<\/p>\n ~Amy Rees Anderson<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cHow or who, baby\u2026how or who\u2026\u201d, that is my husband Rollin\u2019s very favorite saying.\u00a0 How do I know it\u2019s his favorite? Because I\u2019ve heard him say it multiple times every day for the last ten and a half years of marriage.\u00a0 Let me explain: Every time that I ask my husband Rollin to do something […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":6648,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[17806,17807,17808,17810,395,17821,17826,17824,17805,16451,17813,17817,17818,17811,285,17819,17823,17812,14198,7506,17815,17820,544,3509,16230,2976,17816,12461,17825,17094,17814,17809,17822,866],"class_list":["post-9327","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-realtalk","tag-admit-he-was-wrong","tag-admit-to-being-wrong","tag-all-it-takes-to-change-a-man-is-perseverance","tag-amy-rees-anderson","tag-decide-who-does-it","tag-doing-it-right","tag-following-directions","tag-getting-a-man-to-change","tag-happy-wife-happy-life","tag-honey-do-list","tag-how-or-who","tag-how-or-who-babyhow-or-who","tag-hubby","tag-humor","tag-if-you-want-it-done-a-certain-way-do-it-yourself","tag-laugh-or-cry","tag-level-of-detail","tag-pay-attention-to-the-details","tag-perseverance","tag-psychotic-level-of-detail","tag-rebellious","tag-relationships","tag-ridiculous","tag-ridiculousness","tag-rollin-anderson","tag-showing-how-much-we-care","tag-stubborn","tag-taking-direction","tag-the-difference-between-men-and-women","tag-the-joy-of-marriage","tag-the-right-way-to-get-it-done","tag-the-wife-is-always-right","tag-wisdom"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9327","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9327"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9327\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9345,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9327\/revisions\/9345"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6648"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9327"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9327"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.amyreesanderson.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9327"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}