Amy Rees Anderson

“The Voices Told Me To Buy More Shoes”

At least that is what I tell my husband!  I blame my obsession with shoes on Cinderella frankly.  But let’s be honest – there is just something SO HAPPY about buying a brand new pair of shoes :)!  I don’t even know that this burst of joy that buying a new pair of shoes causes is a phenomenon that could be explained with words, but it is SO TRUE!   At least for women it is.  I can’t really speak for men because I don’t really know what it does for men, but for women, ah yes, for women the purchasing of a new pair of shoes can literally change our lives!  Again, I blame that on Cinderella because:


I actually decided to do some research on why buying a new pair of shores has such a huge impact on us women and I was surprised to find out that there really is an explanation that scientists have come up with regarding our obsession with cute shoes.  According to studies, when a woman buys a new pair of shoes “The neurotransmitter dopamine is released, providing a feel-good high, similar to taking a drug,” says Martin Lindstrom.  And apparently it is not just an increase of dopamine at work:  “Shoes are a collector’s item, whether women realize they perceive them that way or not,” says Suzanne Ferriss, PhD, editor of Footnotes: On Shoes. Just think of how they’re often stored artfully on shoe trees and shelves. “They’re like sculptures,” says Ferriss. As a result, collecting each type provides a mini-adrenaline rush similar to the satisfaction a stamp collector gets when he acquires a rare find.”

And so this research clearly indicates that our shoe obsession is NOT OUR FAULT!  It is a chemical problem in our brains with dopamine and adrenaline!  VINDICATION!!

And for the men reading today’s blog, don’t worry, I am about to share some tips for you that will save your relationships and buy you huge brownie points with your woman:

If ever you are in trouble, which you know you frequently are, because let’s face it, you are men!  If ever you are in trouble, buy your woman a new pair of shoes, or if you are afraid to pick them out for her you can give her a gift certificate to order her own shoes on!  Nothing will get you out of trouble more quickly than a new pair of shoes, except maybe diamonds, but shoes are much cheaper :).     

A second tip for men is to recognize that whatever shoes a woman puts on for the day will tell you everything about the mood she is in – almost like those mood rings that change colors – her shoes for the day will indicate if she is in a casual mood, an “I am woman hear me roar” mood, an “I don’t care” mood, or an I feel sexy mood.  And for the record, stilettos are more of an attitude than a shoe so always notice when she is wearing stilettos. 

Yes, every shoe we wear reflects something about how we are feeling that day.   And you men that paid attention will thank me for these tips someday. 

And so I admit that I went a little crazy on my trip to Vegas and I splurged for a pair of the most gorgeous, sexiest, most sparkly shoes that I have ever seen!  They are like sparkly diamonds and shoes all in one – both of any woman’s favorite things – and so I ask you can life get any better than that?!?!  I suggest not!   Okay, so here is a photo of my cute new shoes –

the photo doesn’t do them justice but they are AMAZING!  And I can’t wait to have an event to wear them to!  In the meantime I am going to make my husband build me a display case for these shoes because as we just learned from the research I shared, these shoes are like a sculpture – like a fine piece of art!  And they must be displayed!  Plus, they totally remind me of Cinderella 🙂

Have a great day!



  • Mark Hester says:

    Missing you everyday lady. You can make boring subjects exciting.

  • ARAadmin says:

    I miss you everyday too Mark – we need to grab lunch soon and catch up 🙂

  • Mikinsie Clark says:

    Ahhh I love those!!! They are so cute that it gave ME that little burst of happiness too! Interesting read. I learned a lot about myself tonight. Tehee

  • Allegra says:

    Those are absolutely GORGEOUS! Well worth it, no matter the price! 🙂

  • Brittany says:

    Oh girl! Those shoes are smokin’!! Love ’em! You make sure you get that display case ‘cuz those are too fablous to hide away in a closet!

    Every girl should own herself some Louboutins! 🙂

  • Stephanie Feathersto says:

    I love the shoes! While I am not a huge fan of stilettos, I just might consider them if they were that awesome! They totally look like Cinderella’s slippers. 😉

  • Tina says:

    It’s true shoes have a way of making you feel good plus you don’t have to spend a lot! Love the blog today Amy, makes me want to go get some Cinderella Shoes!!!

  • Kim says:

    Ok dont get me wrong buying something is fun but trying to understand the reason behind it was making me wonder. So I admit this is educational to learn why some women like to buy shoes… I am a female and personally don’t go buy shoes and when I do I don’t find it exciting…so thank you for sharing insite on this.

  • Heidi Harrison says:

    Fabulous Shoe! What does the outfit look like that goes with the shoe? That shoe deserves its own outfit. (Sorry, Rollin.)

  • Connie Houskeeper says:

    Amy, the shoes are lovely. I would love to see you in them and I can even imagine the dress. It is form fitting, yet elegant, white with sequins, long sleeves pointed on top of the back of the hand with Italian lace. You do look like you are ready to knock em dead with awe. You are so much fun. Me, I am more like Kim. My sons have more shoes than I do. I think I get that same kind of rush when I am out with the hawks and one dives at me. Sounds exactly like a small jet comming at the back of my head. NOW, that makes me smile and gets my attention. They are majestic. Protecting them is one of my passions. Love ya

  • Lindee says:

    Ha! I loved loved this post, Amy. So true! Especially when you say, “A second tip for men is to recognize that whatever shoes a woman puts on for the day will tell you everything about the mood she is in – almost like those mood rings that change colors”
    This is a perfect bit of advice for any guy to heed! Well done.

  • Mimi says:

    How come I can relate to your post. I have voices all the time. Well done!


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    Simply, great! just wanted to say, it’s truly beautiful shoes, something different smarty, nice chose of color.


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