As I sit down to write my blog every night I try and look back at my day and ask myself “what lessons did I learn today that I can share with others?” so I can write about those lessons and know that something good can come from my challenges I go through. I have asked myself that question now for over 3 ½ years every single day before I write my blog. It has been really interesting to stop and do that every night because it really forces me to look at everything I went through in that day in order to figure out what God wanted me to learn from the challenges and difficulties I faced. Knowing I have to write about it each night really forces me to figure it out first, otherwise I would have nothing that I could share with all of you. I am incredibly grateful that this blog has forced me to go through that exercise because I know that a million lessons would have passed me by if I wasn’t forced to recognize them and acknowledge them. The fact is that it’s an exercise well worth doing each day for yourself, even if you don’t write a blog about it – just force yourself to take a few minutes and the end of each day to look back and try to see what you were supposed to learn from today’s experiences. You will be amazed at how much it will open your perspective and help you to grow.
So what did I learn today?
Well, the truth is that today was stressful. There is just no other way to describe it. I am trying to juggle a bunch of really important things like doing my year-end tax stuff (arggghhh), finalize the plans for the new house (holy overwhelming), hire the team that will build it for us (scary to do), keep up with the REES Capital meetings (way behind on these), handle the IPOP Foundation setup structure for my charity (talk about complicated rules and restrictions…), and respond to everyone’s requests for time and attention (totally and utterly impossible!). It was just a crazy stressful day today and it wore me out.
So I came home and went through my normal routine of asking “what was I supposed to learn from my day today?” That’s when it hit me – today I was supposed to learn to master my emotions. When things get stressful and I feel overwhelmed, I need to practice focusing on the positives and not letting myself feel buried. I need to remind myself to just do the best I can and take things one step at a time. I can’t eat the entire elephant at once, but I can take one bite at a time and continually move forward.
I know from past experience that I have the power to control my emotions by simply controlling my thoughts. It 100% works and I have experienced it time and time again in my life. If I change my thought process in my head it will change the anxiety and stress in the rest of my body. If I change my thoughts I will change my emotions. It’s that simple.
No, today I didn’t do so well with controlling my thoughts or my emotions. But tonight as I reflect back I see my mistake and I know how to fix it. So I am learning from that mistake and that is what matters most. Today I kept focusing on what wasn’t done and I wasn’t recognizing what I was getting accomplished. Today I was allowing the thoughts in my head to focus on how “stressed” I was, instead of controlling my thoughts and pointing them toward the happy and exciting things happening. Today I simply didn’t do well controlling my thoughts, and as a result I was completely stressed out.
The lesson from today is that we need to master our emotions, and all we have to do to make that happen is to control our thoughts. Focus on the positive things. Focus on taking things one step at a time, doing the best you can do, and then let that be enough. Be proud of yourself for giving a full effort. Be happy that you are learning and growing and becoming a better person through every experience you have. Master your emotions!
A great quote to remember is this:
”If I feel depressed I will sing. If I feel sad I will laugh. If I feel ill I will double my labor. If I feel fear I will plunge ahead. If I feel inferior I will wear new garments. If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice. If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come. If I feel incompetent I will think of past success. If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals. Today I will be the master of my emotions.” -Og Mandino
Have a WONDERFUL WEDNESDAY by Mastering Those Emotions!!! I am all over this because I am NOT willing to be all stressed out again tomorrow. Tomorrow I am going to SMILE and BREATHE and ENJOY IT! I hope you will too!
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