I get that when people are passionate about their beliefs they want to share them with others and I think that is an awesome thing if it’s done in a positive way! In all my years of being a leader in the business world I have never once seen anyone be influenced by angry words or put downs. Genuine influence comes when you listen to people, you are patient with people, and when you love people.
I have struggled the last few weeks witnessing some of the crazy things going on over social media sites. I understand everyone wanting to voice their feelings about things, but to me it feels more like people are all waging war on anyone who doesn’t think or feel the same way as they do. And it isn’t just people on one side or the other of a topic, it is people on BOTH sides that are doing the same thing to each other. They are both going beyond just respectfully stating their own feelings by trying to then invalidate the other person’s feelings by calling them names or spewing negativity at them. There is just a crazy amount of attacking going on and frankly I find it sickening.
Whatever happened to people respectfully sharing how they feel without feeling they have to prove to everyone they are right and everyone else is wrong? And what happened to listening to how someone else feels without feeling the need to tell them how wrong they are because they don’t feel the same way you do? Isn’t everyone entitled to have their own feelings?!
I have plenty of my own feelings on current topics politically and religiously but I’ll be danged if I am going to be posting them on a social media sites in a way that puts anyone else down for thinking differently than I do. Doing so goes against everything I believe to be right.
I think it’s awesome to learn about other people’s views and beliefs because it helps us get to know where other people are coming from. And I am proud of my own views and beliefs and I am willing to share them anytime, with anyone, who wants to know them in order to get to know me and where I am coming from. Perhaps if we all go into sharing our beliefs with the intent of learning more about each other, and coming to understand and appreciate each other more, we could actually learn a tremendous amount.
I agree 100%, Amy!
It’s true that whenever people get upset, it is tempting to go on the offensive or defensive. It seems to me that there are always people around who simply want to score “points” in a media fight, but one of my favorite things to do is to use some basic counseling skills to see if we can get past the defenses. It’s really gratifying, actually, to finally find some common ground and to part as some sort of friend. And it really surprises them, for sure! Thanks for the post.
I agree good post!
Unplugged from some social media for this very reason. Its out of control and only getting worse.
Good read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was performing some research on that. And he in fact bought me lunch as I identified it for him smile So let me rephrase that: Thank you for lunch!