It is a fact of life that we cannot control what other people do. We can’t make someone else act with integrity, or make someone else do the right thing, and we can’t make someone else be a good person. All we can really control in life is ourselves. When someone else does something bad or dishonest or unkind we can only control our reaction to it. And the way we conduct ourselves in tough times is the way we exhibit the person that we are.
Unfortunately we live in a world where there are people who will lash out at others in jealousy or greed or plain old meanness. And no matter how good a person you are, there will always be those who try to tear you down as best they can. But always remember that regardless of what anyone else does or says, we can always choose to take the high road – we can always choose to continue to act with integrity and kindness. And at the end of the day it is taking that high road that will bring us inner peace, even amongst the turmoil that others may try to create.
One thing that helps me most at those times when I have had to deal with someone who is trying to tear me down is to remember that there is only one person we need to be able to please in this life and that is God. Obviously none of us like to deal with the hurtful behavior of someone who is lashing out at us. It is heartbreaking when it happens, and I don’t know how anyone could not be hurt or affected by it. However, I do believe with all my heart that as much as it may cause us to feel bad, it isn’t something we should ever allow to drive how we feel about ourselves. We should never let our view of ourselves be determined by another person who is lashing out because people aren’t perfect and people aren’t all-knowing – Only God is. That is what makes him the perfect judge that we can trust implicitly. That is why he is the perfect person to focus your energy and attention on pleasing, and no one else. And we are able to control what he thinks of us by the way we act and the integrity we have. And knowing that gives tremendous peace in a world often filled with chaos.
Today’s reminder is that if we are living our lives in a way that we know God would be proud of us, then nothing that anyone else may do or say can ever change that, and that is something to be happy about.
Have a fantastic day filled with loads of inner peace and happiness!