STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF! Yes I’m yelling with the all caps because we all need to have someone yell that at us once in a while.
We all tend to be our own worst critics in life. And for those of us who are women, we are our own worst critic times ten!
I have always been a fan of motivation speaker Brian Tracy. In one of his talk series that is a personal favorite of mine called The Psychology of Achievement, he talked about improving our self-image by looking in the mirror each morning and saying “I like myself” and repeating it over and over again each day. When I first heard his advice I thought to myself “There is no way I would ever do that!” I just thought it would feel too silly. But the more I thought about his words the more I understood the importance of his exercise he was suggesting. He was trying to help us come to recognize that far too many of us don’t like ourselves very much and that was a major obstacle that was holding us back from becoming successful in life. Thus we need to get to a point that we really do like ourselves if we want to become our very best selves and accomplish all that we are capable of.
When I figured out how important it was to like ourselves I decided maybe it wasn’t so silly to do something as basic as looking in the mirror as we say “I like myself” over and over each day. I learned to put little notes to myself on my mirror reminding myself that I was capable and that I had the ability to succeed at most anything I put my mind to. That and having a hearty collection of Wonder Woman memorabilia to tell myself I was Wonder Woman if I chose to be did wonders for helping me learn to like myself. 🙂
When you do find yourself thinking bad thoughts about yourself try adding the words “up until now” to the end of your negative thought. That will serve as a good reminder that you always have the power to change whatever you aren’t happy with and starting now it is only going to get better from here.
Starting today, stop being so hard on yourself, then look in the mirror and say “I like myself”! Then keep saying it as many times as it takes to mean it!
“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.” – Wayne Dyer
Have a great day everyone! And for the record – YOU ARE GORGEOUS! AND AMAZING! AND BRILLIANT!
~Amy Rees Anderson
That’s a great tip “Up until now”. Your wisdom is so valuable. In my 20s I didn’t like myself. Fortunately I grew up and realized I’m the only me I have so I better figure out how to get along with me and grow into the person I wanted to be. To do that I had to like myself.